How do you and your spouse make time for each other? How do you ensure you communicate properly? If you are married, and are both working, even without children, finding time to communicate can be a challenge! If you add children to the mix, you can barely hear your own thoughts, much less carry on a meaningful conversation with your spouse.

Communication is so important, and with your spouse, it’s foundational! When my husband and I had our daughters, I established a standard schedule for them at a young age, which also included a routine bedtime. I didn’t realize at the time, but this not only was good for our daughters, but it was good for our marriage too. This created alone time for us each evening, so we could watch TV together and talk. We have had some of our best conversations after the kids go to bed. Having uninterrupted time with your spouse is key.
About 2 years ago, my husband and I did a walking challenge with some friends. We committed to walking 3 miles a day, so we walked together after work. We started this shortly before the storm period we went through and I don’t think it was by accident. Not only did we need to talk when the kids went to bed during that time, but we needed additional time each day. While getting our 3 miles in, we also had some amazing conversations, and even did book studies together during that (not reading, but the discussion after we read). Like my husband says, it is awkward to walk with someone and not talk to them. We have continued to walk daily and it doesn’t matter if it is cold, hot or raining – just ask our neighbors.
If you struggle with communication, then you look for some tools to help. You can also check out my tips here for free. Soon I will cover the different communication styles and I will share my personal struggles with communication.