My husband and I are coming up on our 14th wedding anniversary. Have all 14 years been full of magic? Of course not. Anyone that has been married for any amount of time knows that it isn’t always easy. It’s easy to get caught in the trap of going through the motions each day and not putting in the effort needed to help your relationship grow. We are guilty of doing this more than we should!
In my recent blog posts, I’ve written about a difficult season that my family went through, and at the beginning of that season, my husband and I were faced with a decision to join a marriage enrichment program hosted by our church. This was not the first time this program was offered at our church, but I can honestly say, I never once considered registering.
Why? Well, first, I didn’t think we needed it. I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I think full transparency is important. Second, it was definitely outside of my comfort zone. Honestly, I think it had more to do with my comfort zone and I used the first reason to dismiss the thought. Then I sat in church one Sunday, and felt that tug at my heart, when they played the same video they had played each Sunday before (the one I was ignoring, because we didn’t need to take part). I was not amused that I felt that tug either. The thought of registering terrified me, but not as much as the thought of me bringing this up to my husband.
Later that day, we went for our typical walk together (check out my blog post from last week if you missed it) and I did the scary thing and brought it up. You know what he said? Something I never would have expected. “Oh yeah, I have been thinking we need to do that too.” Um, what? You have? I know now that God led us to this program because we needed to lean on each other (and Him!) during that season. That program gave us the tools to do that. If you want more info on that program, reach out to me. I am happy to share more.
After we completed it, we committed to continue to find book studies that we could do together. We also realized the importance of our walks together and continued to walk daily. Doing this has not made our marriage perfect, but it has helped us uncover areas that needed growth.